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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Bigot? I think not.

So yesterday I was at the U of A football game with my friend C. We were having a good time and generally being goof balls. Then I brought up to her that the wife of one of the accountants in the group that I work with had deleted me from her face book page. She had posted an article about Robert Pattenson (sp?) the guy who is in the Twilight movie. I am not a big fan of the Twilight books because first of all I am too old for teen romance novels and secondly, I think that what they have done with the vampires isn't good. The idea of a vampire falling in love with a mortal is just wrong. I know that in Bram Stoker's Dracula that Dracula falls in love with a mortal, but she is the re-incarnated version of the woman he loved before he was a vampire. And anyways they didn't have a torrid love affair that spans many books. (I digress...)

The trouble began when I posted a comment to her link to the Pattenson story. I simply asked why it is that the new generation of vampires are kinda gay. She and one of her friends took high offense to that and she deleted the story that she posted and deleted me from her friends list. She didn't mention anything to me and I assumed that she was just sensitive about the fact that I didn't like the Twilight books. It struck me as juvenile, but I blew it off. That is until yesterday. I mentioned the incident to my friend C, who is a fellow co-worker and friend to the woman who deleted me. I guess that the real issue she had with my post was that she thought that I was gay bashing. Yes, you heard me right, gay bashing. Now at first I was laughing my ass off about that. Obviously, I am not a gay basher or a bigot. Almost all of my friends from college are gay and I even receive the Wingspan newsletter and am going to go through their training at some point about helping young lesbians and gays. This is a subject that I am quite passionate about for sure, but in the direct opposite direction that she accused me of.

At first I laughed about the idea of me as a bigot. The idea is ludicrous. However today I started to get angry. That is a very serious accusation to make about someone, especially someone who does not even know you. And for her to tell other people that I work around... that is serious. How dare she tell other people that, particularly when she doesn't know me. I think that I should avoid her and her nasty allegations. Honestly I don't want to be seen with people like that whether they are on the same side of the fence as me or not.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Assholes and Elbows

So I went to the former in-laws for Trick-or-Treat on Halloween. We do this every year and I have decided that this will be the last year that I go there. You know those moments that make you stop and say, "Damn, I really hate these people?" Yeah I had one of those. They are all backwards hicks, drunks and assholes.

My ex fits perfectly in this picture because he decided that he would wear bright orange lingerie and walk down the street holding a beer and a cigar. Now that is class with a capital K. Icky. Then I spent most of the night sitting in the corner by myself watching the six kids that were there because everyone else was too focused on getting drunk to watch the kids. Fantastic. I have decided that I am not going back there for any other "family" celebration. My ex and I have been divorced for over two years and I am really tired of his family.

So, I have this other problem in that I have a friend who I am close to severing my relationship with her. She constantly lies about the stupidest things. I hate to make my social circle smaller, but I am not sure that I can take the "I'm an expert on things that I have no clue to" shit that she pulls. I really don't know what to do with it.

The good news is that I am doing my traditional "Friends" Thanksgiving again this year. For the last six years I have done a friends Thanksgiving celebration. I like to think that friends are the family that you choose and I like to celebrate the holidays with them. So, we do a Thanksgiving and a New Years celebration. Now that my friend P has a house and I do to, we actually have enough room now to do them right. I love fall, it is my absolute favorite time of the year. So here's to a relaxing and stress free fall!